How many times have you been at a social event or chatting with someone and they ask, “What do you do?” It is a very common question and people reply with their profession, for example, I am a dentist or a teacher or maybe a professional racquetball player! It sounds like a standard conversation that you have probably had with people more times than you can count. We often confuse what we do with who we are.
What we do is only a part of what makes us who we are. Let’s take a look at some attributes they truly define our identity:
- Work Ethic
Those are some examples that are at the core of what makes you, you! So, where am I going with this and what does this have to do with racquetball? Often times we get our self-esteem wrapped in how well we did in a tournament or league and build our identity around our success. The first question asked to athletes after a match is, “Did you win?” The answer is either, yes or no. I won, so therefore I am a winner or I lost, so I am a loser! It is so important to not get your identity tangled up with how you perform.
Playing a sport is what you do because you love the competition, the challenge, the training and the personal satisfaction when you improve and yes, win!! Your identity comes from inside of you and then you display those qualities. When you get your identity from how you think people perceive you from the outside, based on your performance and you are always looking for other people to validate you, you are a victim of identity theft. Don’t let your identity be defined or stolen by what you do but rather make a list of what makes you who you are and enjoy everything that makes you the unique and cool person that you have become and when you are solid with it, you now can enjoy what you do….